Monday, September 15, 2014

Flat Tire Fab

Happy Monday! Of course there is no better way than to start off the week with a flat tire! Luckily for Jay's planning and Allstate roadside assistance, I was back on the road in no time. However, this morning's events did get me thinking about "bumps in the road," and little parts of life that are unexpected that we have to encounter. And conquer. Whether it's fixing a tire or dealing with a larger issue, we must be ready to face the world.


I think the key is staying patient. And if you don't have patience (like myself), this task can be easier said than done. Take my example of the flat tire - they told me 45 minutes but I really ended up waiting almost an hour and a half. If I didn't keep my cool, the provider may have received more than a $10 bill. More like my attitude and a "see ya never, bye."

In times of need, we need to have a tight support system. I wouldn't be half the person I am without my husband. Forget about making decisions on a tire! He is there for me at the drop of a dime, I know I can trust him to make important decisions that could impact my safety. I also have the most amazing friends who will not only listen to me vent unconditionally, but will pick me up and take me to work. And I can't deny that my family is always there, no matter how messy the situation.

Last but not least, we need to believe in ourselves. One of my favorite quotes of all time enlightens, "The road to success is always under construction." And how appropriate for this scenario! We are continuously tested each and every day, from the tiniest of mishaps like a flat, to the dilemmas that never seem to resolve. But there is hope, my friends, as long as the person you depend on the most is yourself. Keep truckin!

Friday, September 12, 2014

How Habitual Are We?

You never really know someone until you live with them. And in all actuality, if you are even compatible to live together. I always thought moving in with a man would be easy, especially one that tended to be a neat-freak. When I was the one who didn't mind leaving dishes in the sink, or unopened mail fanned out on the entire counter (although this isn't the case anymore, how the tables have turned). But as your styles blend, so do your habits. Sometimes they clash more than they mesh and you have to learn to adapt. Other times you accept there are things you cannot change, including the things that you yourself are guilty of doing. It is a complete life adjustment and like most things, takes time. It's always entertaining to look back and poke fun at the little quirks that make us who we are. Are we truly creatures of habit?


For this post, I am trying to keep in mind the dictionary definition of a habit. "An acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary. Customary practice or use."

A few of mine for example, some of which I have hinted at before. I am not particularly proud of these and admit that I am mildly compulsive. One - I absolutely HAVE to lock the door as soon as I step foot in the apartment. God forbid someone breaks in the building for that split second and I can save myself from getting robbed! I mean get real, I know in my head it won't happen. But the locked door always wins this battle. Two - I like to have a cup of tea after dinner. For some reason, I like to leave my mugs just about anywhere, with the teabag still in and drying up long after the tea is gone. They sometimes miss the dishwasher being turned on and have to wait for the next run. Three - Hair, hair, and more hair. No matter what I do, there is always a stray strand that was missed and left behind, usually on the bathroom floor. Or by the sink. Or shower. I'm sure most women can relate that it is impossible to keep up with how much we shed. Four - I now have my own particular way to make the bed. Which pillows go where. And the crease I like to karate-chop into the middle of the decorative ones. These are only a few to name, the list could ramble on but I may start to embarrass myself.

Let's not forget about the men. My husband has his habits, too. And not to put him on the spot, as I'm sure he wouldn't be happy knowing I was divulging all of his patterns. I'll just share a few that are light-hearted and non-humiliating. One - he looks in the fridge right before he leaves the apartment and right before he goes to bed. Nothing is changing and no new food is appearing, yet he likes to take a look at what's there (and possibly have a snack). Two - Even when he's watching one of his favorite shows or sporting events, he still needs to see what else is on TV by clicking the guide button and scrolling during commercials. Which always makes me worried we'll miss part of the show! Three - Leaving shoes just about anywhere. More than likely in the exact spots where they came off. And don't get moved until usually someone (me) picks them up. Or perhaps we have a shoe fairy?

Although most of the habits I listed above are the silly things we notice in the day to day, there are also good patterns so important to our routine. Things like never going to bed angry, saying "I love you every night" before we go to sleep, and giving each other a kiss before leaving for work in the morning. Habits don't have to be about cleaning, chores, and tangible items. The way we treat our significant others and our emotional demeanor can speak leaps and bounds. Habits can be characteristics and qualities that we possess that make us who we are. Like patience, kindness, and compassion. And if there are little things you and your man could live without (like that drawer that always seems to be open), you could always work at breaking the pattern. As long as you're both willing!



Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Last days at the Vineyard

Already on the third full day back at home, but definitely not adjusted into my regular routine. I am hoping that the nostalgia of this last photo diary will bring me back to the place I was only last week.

One of the best beaches we visited is called Moshup. The cliffs are layers and layers of clay and sediment. I've never been to the Grand Canyon, but this beach always reminds me of its rich, red hues. You walk down a long path from the dirt parking lot to stumble upon the most beautiful shoreline I've ever seen (no filters necessary in these photos).









The only thing that throws me off each time I visit this beach - the closer you get to the cliffs, the closer you are to the nude beach so beware!

The last beach we explored on Friday is State Beach. This is known as the baby beach because there are literally no waves and the water is shallow, perfect for the little ones. Also perfect for me to add shells to my collection (probably one of the dorkiest things I do, but I love it). Jay made a little throne in the sand for our nephew, Judd.








That night was Jay and I's early celebration for our one-year anniversary. Where better to eat than the famous Black Dog? We split a clambake for two, which came with chowder, mussels, clams, two 1 1/4 lb. lobsters, potatoes, corn, and some thing that looks like kielbasa (I can't remember the name - something like linguisa). 




With full bellies, we were on our way to the last full day on the Vineyard. Judd rode the carousel for the first time and we ate lunch at Nancy's for their fried clams. Sunday made its way and we were on our way home. 

Looking back, it was an amazing vacation. Full of family time and adventures. One of the best ways to kick off the month of September, which you know is the month of our anniversary. I am already eager to go back next summer and revisit the place that is so dear to my heart.



Monday, September 8, 2014

Happy One Year Anniversary - 9/8/13

Although I still have some photos left to log from our week at the Vineyard, it is necessary to pause and remember what today was for Jay and I exactly one year ago. September 8th - this day will always hold its concrete imprint in my heart and in my mind. It is the day we vowed to spend the rest of our lives together.

And so I dedicate this post to my husband, my best friend, the love of my life. We said I do, moved back home, became an aunt and uncle, and began the rest of our life as one. We have accomplished so much together and I am so proud of every decision we have made as a team.

Jay - my love has grown each and every day as we grow together. You are the strongest, most compassionate person I have ever met and I am honored to share my life with you. Happy Anniversary, here's to a lifetime of happiness and companionship.


With this post, I also want to share my exact vows that I wrote and renounced during our ceremony. I meant every word, you have my promise that this will always hold true.

"Jay,

I vow from this day until forever that my heart belongs to you.  My love for you continues to grow and evolve each day, no matter what the circumstance. You have showed me what true and unconditional love is, and I am so grateful to have you in my life.

You make up for my imperfections, you make me a better person. I never thought I would meet my husband on the first day of my very first job.  And look where we are now, three and a half years later.  You are my best friend and I trust you with all of my heart.

Sometimes I can’t believe how alike we are. We share the same passions and can practically finish each other’s sentences. We have the same level of patience, which isn’t that high, yet you still always bring out the best in me. I am a stronger and better person with you by my side.

I promise to support you through whatever comes our way, to appreciate all of the things you do for me. I promise to respect you and put you first. I will be there to laugh with you and lift you up when you are down. I promise to encourage you and inspire you, as you do for me every day without even trying.


I am so excited to start the beginning of the rest of my life with you. Each day is a new adventure and I’m honored to know that you will experience it with me. You have made me a believer in true love.  I love you."


P.S. - Excited to see what our cake tastes like after being frozen for a year!


Thursday, September 4, 2014

Vineyard Adventures

Well, we are now on day 5 at Martha's Vineyard. Slightly tanner and feeling good as the weather seems to get better as each day passes. The morning fog is gone and the sun is shining.

The past couple days have been full of sweat and sand. Tuesday we went to South Beach, where the waves are rough and you need to get the timing just right to run into the ocean. I made sure of this considering I watched a girl wipe-out and roll up onto shore - she got hit by a wave and the next thing I knew, her feet were in the air with no body in sight.




Notice how there isn't anyone really on the beach. Jay said this is how he remembers it when he was little. Before all of the hype of "this is where the Presidents go on vacation," because a lot of people didn't really know about it. It was their hidden gem that became popular as they aged. But after Labor Day weekend and school opening, the island has felt like the old days. Less people and more room for us to breathe and explore. 

That night we went into town for dinner at the Sweet Life Cafe. A little french bistro with tables outside and Christmas tree lights all dwindled up in the vines. 



Each night has ended with more ice cream than I normally can bear, but I figure, why not? I'm on the vineyard after all.

Wednesday morning, Caryn and I went for a run on the bike path. We surprised ourselves when we realized we went 3 miles! I am feeling it more so today as the soreness is seeping though my muscles. It was also the morning the men went to play golf, so my mother-in-law and I decided to take a trip to Glassworks. They literally blow and melt glass into any shape and size. Wednesday, they were making pumpkins.




The top of the stairs was the home to their art gallery, full of light and glass figures (very pricey but that is fine art for ya). We went back downstairs, paid for my pumpkins, and were on our way back home to get ready for the beach.

The choice of the day was Long Point, a wildlife refuge where you ride 3 miles on a dirt road before you park next to two paths. One leads to the fresh water pond and the other to the beach. We took the beach route (the pond was nearly another mile of a walk). It was already 3 in the afternoon and only a few people left by the water.



These pictures were taken around 5pm, and by then everyone else was gone except Jay and I. We waited until the sun napped behind the clouds and walked back to the car. Dinner was Jay's famous mussels dish that we are excited to compare to the original recipe at the Black Dog when we go for dinner on Friday. Another day closer to our anniversary! September 8th will be here soon enough, and will mark our first year of marriage. This week has definitely been an amazing way to lead up to our day.


Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Welcome to the Vineyard


Are the rules different on an island? Can we shut off our minds from the everyday life and just go with the flow? I have to admit, it took me some time to realize I was on vacation. But now onto Day 3, especially knowing the Labor Day crowd has taken the last ferry off of Martha's Vineyard, I can steam ahead and enjoy my time off.

Jay and I had an early start on Sunday morning. We finished packing up our last minute items, double-checked the apartment and said "see ya in a week." The drive wasn't even as bad as we anticipated but we made sure we gave ourselves some extra time.


After about 3 1/2 hours of a drive, we arrived at the Woods Hole Steamship Authority. Lucky for us, there was open space to hop on an earlier ferry, so we drove onto the small freight boat and set sail for the Vineyard.


The rest of the day went by pretty fast as we met up with Dave, Caryn, and Judd (my brother and sister-in-laws and nephew), and Sherry and Steve (my mother and father-in-laws). We scoped out our house and the surrounding area. I cooked my mom's recipe of penne vodka for dinner and with full bellies we slept soundly. Excited for what tomorrow would bring.


Monday's adventure would be bike rides and fresh seafood. I took a short ride with Dave and Caryn while we waited for Steve and Jay to come back with the famous apple fritters. Keep in mind the size of this thing is about 10 x 6.


Feeling refreshed from breakfast, I convinced Jay to come back out with me for my second bike ride. Little did he know we would end up riding all the way into Edgartown and back (about a 12 mile hike). The way there seemed alot shorter of course, and by the end we had the speed settings down low to prevent our legs from collapsing (at least they felt like that).




We went all the way to the spot where we got engaged two years ago. It felt like it was yesterday, even though the nostalgia seemed to seep in as we heard other people talking about how this was the spot where "he proposed." It must be a popular destination for a man to put a ring on his girl. We sat on the very bench in awe and noticed that people were coming out of the lighthouse. I had never gone down the path, so we decided to investigate for ourselves.














A woman was sitting at the bottom at a little table and told us that for $5 would could go to the top. Jay chose to watch me explore and take pictures from the bottom, so up to the top I went. The stairs spiraled like the inside of a seashell. Then, once you got to the top, a ladder waited for you to climb out onto the balcony. I could hear the wind howling and got a little nervous, there was no turning back. I had come this far after all!




I now saw the world around me in a panoramic view. I held tight to my phone and water bottle so I could snap a few photos, take a deep breath in, and go back down.




We walked back to our bikes, revived ourselves by sharing an ice cream cone, and were on our way back to the house. The rest of the day was spent hanging out with the family, eating some delicious stuffed clams and seared tuna, rushing back into town for some late night ice cream, and just relaxing as much as possible.






What will we do today? Once the morning fog clears, we are hoping to head to the beach and catch some rays. Dinner reservations are for 8:30pm at Sweet Life so we will have plenty of time to spend outside.

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